The Secret Behind A Southern Belles Polite Smile And The Mother Who Learned That Perspective Changes Everything When It Comes To Family

 was sitting on the porch of a massive, white-pillared mansion, listening to my friend Margaret rattle off her gifts like she was reading a scoreboard.

She waved her hand toward the estate behind us and explained that when her first child was born, her husband built her this house as a reward.
“Well, isn’t that nice,” I said.

Then she pointed to the gleaming Cadillac in the driveway — the gift for her second child.
“How lovely,” I replied.